This year, I decided to let the ideal go and make motherhood work for me. For me, mothering as a Black woman has become harder as the world we live in becomes more politically divided. Current political animosities have caused kid friendly spaces to become even more racialized and harder to navigate. Recently, I had the opportunity to connect with a group of Black parents. We shared the difficult conversations about race and skin color that we were ALL having with our children. Despite the age differences of our children (5-13yo), the commonality of our experiences stuck me hard. These conversations…

At first glace, racial interactions in public spaces seem to only involve those engaged in the conflict. Often a racist person is blamed. However, this post lifts a deeper structural analysis that needs further exploration. A few weeks ago, my 4-year-old and I, went to the birthday party of one her good friends at a bounce house play space. Little did I know when we left our house that day that I would have to break up a heated, highly racialized exchange between two moms – one Black, the other White. Here’s more context: A Black boy was inside one of…

Gender stereotypes are just as harmful as racial stereotypes. In kids movies,  gender and racial stereotypes combine to create a dual conflict for Black girls. As I have gotten older, my taste in television and movies has changed dramatically. I have little patience for programming that lack racial diversity and nuanced gender portrayals. As a Black woman and a parent, I delight in seeing my grown-up Black woman-ness on screens large and small. Not only does representation matter to me emotionally, but it is critically important for my MiniMocha, who is a four-year old (very curious) preschooler. As we…